The Dry Orgasm

WHAT IS A DRY ORGASM?

Most male orgasms include both orgasm (a feeling of sexual release and pleasure) and ejaculation (the forceful discharge of semen from the penis). This is not always true however.

A dry orgasm is one that does not include ejaculation. Yes, this is possible!
With a DO you experience the feelings of orgasm, but do not ejaculate and thus do not lose your erection, allowing you to last longer at sex.

To understand how DOs and MMO work, you first need to be familiar with these terms:

• DO (dry orgasm): is when a male is able to experience the feelings of orgasm, but does not ejaculate and thus not losing his erection, allowing to last longer in bed.
• MMO (male multiple orgasm): is the ability to achieve more than one orgasm from a single erection.
• PC/BC muscles: Pelvic floor muscles important for controlling ejaculation. For more information see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pelvic_floor
• Kegel: A contraction of the PC/BC muscles.
• Reverse kegel: a forceful relaxation of the PC/BC muscles accomplished by contracting other abdominal muscles.
• Point of No Return (PONR): The point in sexual stimulation where ejaculation becomes inevitable.
• Edging edging is masturbating and stopping right before you ejaculate. Once your urge to ejaculate has subsided, you repeat the process as many times as you’d like.
• EQ: Erection quality; generally judged by oneself based on a 1-10 scale, with 1 being the poorest erection quality and 10 being a completely hard penis and raging erection.
• Partial Ejaculation: An ejaculation that is partly suppressed by a hard kegel contraction with the result that only a portion of the normal amount of ejaculate (semen) is actually expelled.
• Retrograde Ejaculation: An ejaculation event in which the ejaculate ends up in the bladder

BEGINNING DRY ORGASMS

Now you are ready to try to separate orgasm and ejaculation. Try this: while edging, focus on what you feel as you approach the point of no return, or the PONR. As you get closer, stop stroking and immediately kegel very hard and hold it.

As you feel yourself moving away from the PONR, relax the kegel exercises and resume stroking. Repeat the process, each time getting a bit closer to the PONR. Keep doing this. Eventually, one of the following will occur

a) You will get reach the PONR and orgasm and ejaculate. This is not a problem. Enjoy the experience and try again later.

b) You will balance on the edge of the PONR, you may or may not orgasm, and you will likely experience a Partial Ejaculation (some semen will come out, but not your usual amount). You will then feel your erection begin to subside. Try to bring your erection back and see if you can make yourself cum. If you cannot, don’t worry, you will be able to do this later.

c) You will ejaculate into your bladder. This is known as Retrograde Ejaculation. It is not harmful but because you actually ejaculated, you will probably lose your erection immediately as with a normal ejaculation.

d) You will experience an orgasm without ejaculating. This is the fabled Dry Orgasm or DO! You may or may not experience ejaculation contractions. The first few times you DO, the orgasm experience may be much less intense than that of a regular wet orgasm (with ejaculation). With practice your dry orgasm ability will increase in intensity until they are like those you experience with wet orgasms.

The timing can be a bit tricky so don’t get discouraged if it takes you make many attempts before you achieve a DO. Also keep in mind that significant PC/BC muscle strength is required.

Focus on what you feel as you approach PONR, and practice using kegel and reverse kegel exercises to get closer to the PONR and back off from it. Knowing where you are in the process is key. The more you learn about your body and the more you practice, the easier this will become.

At first your dry orgasm ability will likely be inconsistent and may also routinely be followed by a loss of EQ. You will not entirely lose your erection, but you will lose some penis size hardness at first as you get used to the process.

Keep in mind that a DO will be a very new experience for your body and that years of training have taught your body that sex ends with orgasm and that orgasm means ejaculation.

You need to retrain your body to recognize orgasm and ejaculation as distinct events and to treat them as such. With practice, you will be able to achieve DO more regularly and also maintain your erection after and through the dry orgasm.

Once you can achieve a DO, practice resuming stimulation sooner and sooner afterward.
This may be a bit uncomfortable at first. Motivation may also be a problem, as the afterglow from your orgasm may make maintaining an erection seem like a low priority.

However, if you want to become capable of MMOs, you will want to work to regain a complete erection as soon as possible, or to not lose EQ at all. Don’t worry if you cannot dry orgasm a second time or maintain your second erection for long. Those will come with practice.

TRANSITION TO MULTIPLE MALE ORGASMS

Moving from DOs to becoming MMO requires both practice and motivation. Most men find that it is much easier to achieve these solo – without a partner – because it is easier to control stimulation levels. It can be much harder to stop ejaculation when engaged in active sex with a partner.

Once you can DO solo and maintain an erection, try reaching a second orgasm. Attempt another DO if you wish, or just have a regular wet orgasm. Once you can do this, you are experiencing a full on MMO (multiple male orgasm) session!

As your control and skills improve, you may find that you are able to string several DOs together and have as many Multiple Male Orgasms as you wish, all without losing your erection. This is hard to achieve but is possible with extended practice…. and it can be a great deal of fun!